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NEVER Forget!!

Abria Shanee
1 day ago
3 min read

Never forget when they had a choice, and it was "f#ck you."


It doesn't matter if they said those words or not, that intention is there. Yeah, you bent over backwards, time after time. Hell, they needed you more than you need them. Yet, when you needed them, they conveniently forgot... or got busy ...or whatever. Until they need something else from you again. What's that line Akira keeps throwing at us, "stop bending over backwards for people that won't even stand up for you".


You keep trying to find a miscommunication where there was only a clear, calculated decision.


Let’s stop playing stupid and calling it a "misunderstanding." Or that weak line of "blame it on my head, not my heart". When somebody makes a move that intentionally side-lines you, it wasn't a mistake—it was a trade!


They sat up, calculated your worth, looked at their options, and decided that your feelings were a cheap price to pay for their comfort or someone else’s attention. They didn't "stumble" into disregarding what they knew was happening. They made a deliberate executive decision.


They knew what they were doing.


They knew how it would land on you.


They did it anyway because, at that moment, keeping somebody (often themselves) comfortable mattered more.


Betrayal isn't always loud and chaotic. It's not always a long drawn out decision. Sometimes it’s just quiet repositioning. It’s watching someone move you out of the frame. People will really leave you out here to die, and then give you props when you survive.


The math is simple: they did not value you. Period.


When someone leaves you out, talk about you behind your back, or turn a blind eye, that IS your answer. That is the universe handing you a receipt in high definition. You don't need a final "talk," you don't need a tearful sit-down, and you damn sure don't need their permission to close the door.


The biggest trap we drop ourselves into is waiting for an apology from people who don't even have the capacity to acknowledge the wreckage they left behind.

We sit around trying to rationalize their bad behavior:

  • "Maybe they were going through a lot..."

  • "Maybe they didn't mean to hurt me like that..."

  • "Maybe if I explain it differently, they’ll get it..."

Stop. You are spending your precious time writing dissertations for people who can barely read the room.


People love to preach about "forgive and forget." They want you to sweep garbage under the rug so everybody else can stay comfortable. But forgetting a pattern of disrespect isn't spiritual growth—it's foolishness. Don't keep the memory to feed your anger; keep it so you never get caught slipping again. 


Mofos will test your boundaries simply to see if the fence still has power. Do not leave a cracked door for recycled disrespect. Change the lock, block the channel, and keep stepping. You don't owe them anything. They had an opportunity to show up for you, and it was f#ck you. You don't need revenge. You don't need to get even. The ultimate flex is complete, unbothered indifference.


When you realize their choices were a reflection of their cheap character—and had zero to do with your value—the heavy lifting is done. You pack up your dignity, exit rooms where you are merely tolerated, and stride into spaces that treat you like the main event.

Yes, you can forgive because hate is toxic but never forget what they did. Above all, never let them see you come back.





 
 
 

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